RE: OT Threesomes

["TheBear" <thebear@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>]

Of course you like what you like, and I'd never tell you that you have
to change it.

I do want to address your B/W needs Tara, but W/T doesn't need Buffy
point. I've always found it to be the opposite. I'm sure someone will
correct me, but I don't remember seeing a B/W/T grouping that began as
B/W. It's always W/T invite B to join them. Certainly the stories I
wrote are in that vein, and I think Hunter Ash's are the same way? I
haven't read them in a while, so I could be wrong. 

Anyway, none of this is to say that you have to read something you
dislike. That's why pairing info and a summary are so important in the
headers of a posted story. I'd be quite incensed if I was half way
through a story and suddenly Willow or Buffy brought some #@%@$%
vampire to their bed. But hey, that's just me.



TheBear!

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-----Original Message-----
From: myself03 [mailto:myself03@xxxxxxxxxx] 
Sent: Sunday, July 27, 2003 11:19 AM
To: buffywantswillow@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: Re: OT Threesomes



Hey,



As someones who almost cries when he sees a story he likes turning into
a threesome or when someone suggests a 3some turn while giving fd and
the writer seems to like the idea, i just had to give my opinion...



Of course it is MY personal opinion on the matter and only that.I'm also
talking about my views about the characters on the show, not about real
life lifetime choices.As far as i know people can have personal
relationships with sheep for all I care.I can have an opinion on the
subject at large, but it's not my life to run, so said opinion, when
more especific stays with me...It's part of my " i don't ry to
control/judge your life and you do the same for me" policy.Some people
don't respect it sometimes but still...



Now on to the B/W/? principle...I don't like it...And no it's not a
judgement, it's not a matter of "what's wrong about threesome" , it's a
matter of personal choice...There are people who don't like B/W, B/S ,
W/T , why can't there be people who don't like B/W/T or W/F/B and all? I
could try to explain why, but people should keep in mind this is MY take
on things.



For one, I don't really like Tara.I tried , but the character never grew
on me and when they finally gave her a personality they did it by
messing with Willows, so i didn't have much choice here.Since most of
the threesomes i see are W/B/T , i can't really get into it...



There's also the sex thing...While i do like the ocasional pwp stories,
or chapters, i'm a fan of the romance, the angsty , the fluffy.I once
read a 3some story that centered on the romantic side of things, i think
it was from Hunter...It was very well written, even good, but it wasn't
for me...I spent the entire thing only paying atttention to the moments
where B/W were alone, without Tara around, and i don't think that was
really the point of the story.Other than that a few others, most of the
3some stories i see center on the sexual aspect of things.To me sexual
envolvement is a consequence of the romantic one, soa story where people
change partners as they do clothes or they follow the just add water
principle(you know , the ones where you kinda expect the pizza guy _or
girl in this case_ to show up and join in) is not as appealing as one
dealing with the romance...I respect those who like it, i think that you
should write/read what you like the most , but it just doesn't float my
boat...It's not as if one type of story is better than the others, it's
just like some people liking sci fi, others drama, action and so on.



But one thing that really bothers me with 3somes is the fact that it
mostly affects B/W.Maybe it's because i don't read T/W or visit T/W
sites or anything, but most of the times it's a primary B/W story or
story concept that is turned into B/W/T . A T/W relationship never quite
needs a third part, it's just so fullfiling , but the B/W one...It seems
sometimes Tara gets in just because she is difficult to get hid of .T/W
can't stay apart cause they're the great love of each other's lifes(the
funny thing is that they did break up on the show, but that's another
thing).It's like Buffy can share Willow with Tara , but Tara doesn't
really share Willow with BUffy and Buffy and Tara...well, it's like
Buffy and Tara are as close as B/W.Not only that , but TO ME , the
posture they've adopted with their S.o. during the show doesn't really
suggest an ability to share the affection of they one they love/are
with.And before anyone says anything, while i used the B/W/T example, it
aplies to all, it's just that this is the one i see to see more of.



TO ME , once a relationship turns into a threesome it becomes another
thing.The story no longer deals with that particular pair, doesn't
center on that particular couple, on what they feel , how they complete
each other, how they fill each other.In my vision of the couple, B/W
would complete each other , feelings, sex and everything, so a third
part would cheapen that.They can love other people in different ways,
they can THINK they are in love with 2 people at once, but i don't see
them having THAT love for two people at the same time with the same
intensity.



Boy that was a rant....Well, i'm over now...Once again, it's MY PERSONAL
view on the couple...

----- Original Message ----- 

From: TheBear <mailto:thebear@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> 

To: buffywantswillow@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx 

Sent: Sunday, July 27, 2003 2:16 AM

Subject: OT Threesomes



<disclaimer>

I have no problem with people having whatever personal preferences they
like...

</disclaimer>

However, polyamory is just as valid a lifestyle choice as homosexuality.
It's only a copout (in life or fiction) if done for the wrong reasons-
which is true of any relationship; het, homo, or poly. I realize this
isn't a threesome list, per se, but...

<personal opinion>

I'd love to see some nice season 1,2, 3, or 4 femslashy B/W/? or even
B/W/?/?, so long as it's done well.

I'd even go for some Homo/Het B/W/? so long as no vampires are allowed
to molest our lovely girls.

Oh, and straight B/W? (pardon the pun) Well, if I must... ;)

</personal opinion>






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